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I personally want to pursue computer science however my parents are against it and want me to do engineering. So I figured I do software engineering because it isn't that different from CS however the only university near by that I can get into is UOIT. Waterloo is too competitive and uOttawa/Carleton is too far. 

UOIT's Software Engineering isn't terrible but I haven't heard great things either. If I do engineering I don't mind doing mechatronics or computer. What should I do? 
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This will piss off your parents but you should do something you'll enjoy. If you think you'll enjoy eng, great, but if you really love cs, just go take cs. Both of them will give good job opportunities, but doing something you like and being able to show it will help you later on with getting jobs.
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It's the pissing off my parents part I don't like haha. They'll be helping me pay a bit of my tuition and helped me get this far so I appreciate that. I just want to find some middle ground. I like engineering as well but I'm just stuck on what to do. But everything you said is true so I might have to bite the bullet.
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Yeah, I understand. I'm actually in university right now. My parents wanted me to go into cs, but I chose to go into geography (!!) instead. I know, who would ever pick geography over cs? But in reality, being passionate about the subject has made networking so much easier because I have way more knowledge going into something I actually like, and employers/profs can just tell when you actually care about a subject. Being passionate about the subject/field you're working in -> generally more effort/time put in -> people/profs want to help/hire you more.

My parents also helped me with my tuition for the first years and I'm from an immigrant family so I get that angle too. I had to actually sit my parents down and outline a plan for the future before they were okay with me going into geo. Also, taking them to open houses and having them talk w/ profs helped too since it helped them see that the world doesn't just revolve around (whatever field they want you to go in.)
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This is the repetitive advice you probably heard twenty times at least. But it's your life, not theirs. Will you enjoy doing engineering for the next 50 years of your life to please your parents or would you rather enjoy doing cs? It's best to sit down with your parents and explain that. The geography anon above me gave a fantastic response. Regarding UOIT, I heard it's decent but I would rather go to a school that has a bit more of a reputation.
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Why is Ryerson not on your radar?
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Ryerson doesn't have software engineering however they do have CS. If I end up doing CS which I'm kind of leaning to now I'm definitely considering Ryerson.
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Why do you care what your parents think? Are you going to wake up and grind the 9-5 or are they doing it for you? Also, you're an adult, no longer a child chained to their parents' ankles. Your parents are going to be put six feet under in a casket in a few decades. Are you really going to try to please them once their pulse stops?
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Eh there's obviously that angle and you're totally right it's just that my parents are immigrants from war and grinded to give me this chance ya know? Maybe too much sympathy from my part. Either way thanks to all of the responses I'm probably going to do CS.
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No offence, but clearly you have little respect for your parents. Perhaps you are a privileged individual who took your parents care and struggle for granted. In a few decades when your parents'' caskets are being put in the ground as you say, you'll likely be in your 40s. That still gives you about 20 years to start a career and live a life that will make both you and your parents happy. 

OP clearly stated that his parents are paying for his education. Obviously, if you're taking someone else's money for yourself it isn't far-fetched to assume that you should take into consideration their hopes and dreams as well. If you wanted to completely ignore your parents then why take their money? Pay for university on your own.
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^

My post was written in support of you. You don't need to defend yourself against me lol. I was talking to the guy who wrote - 

"Why do you care what your parents think? Are you going to wake up and grind the 9-5 or are they doing it for you? Also, you're an adult, no longer a child chained to their parents' ankles. Your parents are going to be put six feet under in a casket in a few decades. Are you really going to try to please them once their pulse stops?"
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Right my bad thanks haha
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